Coming Out Support

On 2 December 2013, Daley released a YouTube video announcing that he had been in a relationship with a man since early that year. He said: "I've never been happier."

Coming out can be a big step for anyone. If you’re lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans you don’t have to tell anyone, that decision competly lies with you. But being honest about who you are can really help you to be happy.

Start by telling someone you completely trust. See examples below:

  • friend/best friend;
  • teacher;
  • doctor;
  • family member;
  • counsellor;
  • sports coach;
  • scout leader;
  • a friend who has already come out as gay.

The reaction will most probably be positive – but be prepared for a more negative response too. Sometimes it takes time for people to come to terms with the news. Give them a little while!

From LGBT Foundation

Do’s

1) Contact The Helpline (LGBT Foundation) for support and guidance 0345 3 30 30 30 10am-10pm every day. A quarter of all of our calls are about issues related to Coming Out. Their Helpliners are all individuals who are used to dealing with many issues and if they can’t help you straight away they’ll know someone who can.

2) Use a trusted friendship to ask for support. Test the water by talking about subjects relating to sexuality before your ready to pour your heart out. Sometimes people don’t always react the way you think they will.

3) Ask a teacher / LGBT worker for support and advocacy, there are many people out there who can help; they’re not just their to find you accommodation or tell you about the drama club.

4) Be yourself – be honest and respectful to your feelings and the feelings of your family and friends. When you’re finding out about fabulous new friends and surrounding yourself with all kinds of gay influences to make up for lost time – don’t forget about those who have always been there for you.

5) Ask yourself why is now the best time to come out? If you’ve got other stresses going on in your life; exams, flatmates, work, school, friends, family etc, now may not be the best time. What do you hope people’s reaction will be? If people aren’t as supportive as you’d like, do you really need the added pressure of their baggage while your getting to grips with what you want to say?

Don’t

1) Own the reactions and feelings of others. You need to be sure of what’s right for you and that can change. It’s easy to be influenced when you’re feeling unsure or insecure about something, but you know deep down what’s right for you, regardless of what someone else says.

2) Stand in the closet until someone opens the door. There’s always an opportunity where someone will lead the way into a conversation. It’s up to you if you want to jump in or out. Many people have outed themselves unwittingly or without planning to just because they get sick and tired of keeping it to themselves or listening to homophobia.

3) Do not be frightened about coming out there’s lots of support available. If you can’t find any support where you are ring the LGBT Foundation’s helpline 0345 3 30 30 30 10am-10pm daily.

4) If you are having a tough time with Coming Out or if you are already out but need someone to talk to, you can call the helpline.

Further Information

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We recommended visiting www.rucomingout.com. It has hundreds of stories internationally from people who have come out.